spicenwolf:

There have been a lot of discussions lately on safe words, consent, and related issues. Always good topics for people involved in Kink interactions, which carry some inherent risks that cannot be completely controlled, regardless of how good a D might look in that suit.  Plus Spice has been bugging the **** out of me to talk about this since FOREVER. As the Den Parents of Kink (admittedly self elected) Spice and I (DePoK Wolf) have always felt a concern for people in D/s relationships, though we won’t claim any particular soap box from which to speak.

Anyway, because Spice can’t go around with a ball gag in place 24/7, I have agreed to write a series of posts about safe words and consent.  We will tag them “safe words”, “consent”, and “ethical BDSM”.

A couple words on perspective.  Have Some.  (Done). 

Well, not
quite…  What Spice and I (or anyone) has to say may not be perfect.
It may not fit your circumstances.  It may sound like the words of
Satan incarnate, and that might be a bad thing, or not.  I don’t pretend
to be an expert, nor to speak every truth for every person or
situation, just to present what we have found, what our experience
informs, and what works for us.  Free advice is worth exactly what you
pay for it, and not a penny more.  Comments and discussion are always
welcome, but we seek to be non-judgmental and for the love of Pete,
please don’t take what I’m saying out of context.  Don’t apply it to
your own circumstance that I might not be aware of, and then tell me I
killed your dog, cause I hate those people.  Take what you can use, and
leave the rest.